Day 6: An Introduction to the Model
In the journey to renew our mind, the most important part is to understand how our thoughts are playing out in our lives. Then we begin the work to find new thoughts that will serve us better.
This week we will look at a practical way to really understand how a specific thought or belief is affecting you. It is called the model. Watch the Foundational Video below the get an intro.
CIRCUMSTANCE: A neutral data point that has happened in the world; something about which everyone agrees. In the Self Coaching Model, “circumstance” is abbreviated with the letter “C.”
THOUGHT: An optional sentence in one’s mind about a circumstance; the cause of all feelings. In the Self Coaching Model, “thought” is abbreviated with the letter “T.”
FEELING: A one word description of a vibration in the body that is created by a thought and fuels all action or inaction. In the Self Coaching Model, “feeling” is abbreviated with the letter “F.”
ACTION: Something one does that creates a result and is driven by a feeling; it can also be an inaction. In the Self Coaching Model, “action” is abbreviated with the letter “A.”
RESULT: The effect of our actions or inactions and always the evidence of our original thought. In the Self Coaching Model, “result” is abbreviated with the letter “R.”
Does anything jump out at you?
Anything you feel yourself really agreeing with?
Anything causing resistance?
Spend 5-10 minutes downloading your thoughts in general or about a specific circumstance in your life.
Now take one of those thoughts and take a stab at running it through the model. We will call this your unintentional model – one that is based on a thought you aren’t necessarily intentionally trying to think. Don’t overthink this, just give it your best shot.
C -What is the circumstance you are thinking this thought about. Keep it neutral and stick to facts.
T – Write out the thought. Just one thought per model.
F – Stop and tune in to how that thought makes you feel. Use a feelings list if needed. Let the feeling pass through your body. Write down the one word emotion or feeling that describes it.
A – Write down every action you take based on that feeling. And every action you don’t take.
R – What result are you getting for yourself (not for anyone else) out of those actions.
Seeing the whole picture of how a thought is affecting your life will really help you to begin to understand what is happening.